What can I do when I'm ugly on both outside and inside? What do I do? Cut myself off from the world to make everyones lives better? I'm a monster. I hurt feelings, and I say what was said to me. I feel like I'm nothing but a burden. What do I do?

Find “your tribe.” Find some Facebook groups for your interests so you can mingle with like minded people. Isolating is not the answer. Trust me. It will only compound your negative thoughts about yourself.

Take care of your health. “Health is wealth.” Learn to validate yourself. Get some therapy. It works wonders for self esteem. Start taking photos of yourself and find your “angles.” You MUST build your confidence. Confidence does take people far. I am not conventionally attractive and I have no problem attracting men and women of different races who adore me. Why? Because, again, I clean up nice and have very high self esteem. I am charming, witty, and out going. People love those things about me.

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If you wear glasses, find some flattering frames or get some contact lenses. If you are a woman, find someone on YouTube with a similar face shape and complexion that does makeup and use their videos to follow along and practice makeup. Master contouring if you want the appearance of a slimmer nose and/or face. Smile more.

Find out a perfume/ cologne that smells good with your pheromones. (Scents smell different on different people because of this.) Have impeccable hygiene. If you are very pale, try a mild spray tan.

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Make a list of your good qualities and characteristics and read them out loud daily.

STOP calling yourself a monster and any negative self talk for that matter. Do some daily affirmations that you create that are positive self talk, IE: “I am worthy.”, “I am good looking.”, “I am important.”, “I am valuable.”, “I love myself unconditionally.”, etc.

Looks are subjective. I am an “ugly” person as well, I just clean up nicely.

What are the different celebrity lists (A-list, B-list, C-list, D-list)? How does one become a part of these lists and move up or down in status?

If overweight, try to lose a few pounds. Clean eating, intermittent fasting, cardio, and strength training will do wonders for you. (Faphobia is rampant in America and people treat you better when you are high weight proportionate. Sad, but true.)

YOU are awesome. You just don’t know it yet.

Take care of your nails. Manicures weekly. If you are a woman, dress more feminine and try to wear heels. Start off with wedges.

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What specific things about yourself make you feel so unattractive? If you have acne, see a dermatologist. If your teeth are the reason, see a dentist and/or orthodontist. Go to a hair salon and ask for a style and hair color that fits your face shape. Find out what body shape you have and look on Pinterest for outfit ideas that flatter said body shape. (I have wide shoulders, big boobs, no hips, and a semi-flat butt so I wear a lot of wrap dresses to make my mid section look smaller and to give the illusion of hips.)

I hope this helps. My inbox is open if you ever want to talk.